Share Tracy Hogg's sleep method: an alternative to consider if you are about to do the Estivill method (II)
Yesterday we told you about a method to sleep of an author not too well known in our country, called Tracy Hogg .
It is a method that could be considered behavioral, by how it is carried out, but with better intentions and with something more respect than the best known Estivill method.
After explaining a little the philosophy of this nurse today we will talk a little more about the method, showing how it is carried out and also explaining why we do not like some points that the author exposes, with the clear premise that, despite It seems like a good alternative to the mentioned Estivill method .
What is your method
The best way to understand how your method works is to read the author's book where everything is explained with hairs and signs, however, so that you know a little about what it is, I will give you a short summary with some of the highlights.
Hogg says that to sleep a baby we must first decide what will be the most usual method, because what we do will be what the baby will expect us to do always . Something like saying that if the first days you sleep him rocking for half an hour we will have to do so always and for a long time, because this will be what the baby will wait.
The truth is that this is not without logic, however the rocking or cooing of a baby is usually a solution to a lack of sleep conciliation and not a premeditated decision in plan "when my baby is born I will rock him for more than half an hour so that he falls asleep ", that is to say, most of the time it is done because the baby can not sleep alone or because when he can not fall asleep he begins to moan and cry of pure fatigue.
It also recommends that the child sleep alone in the crib to promote independence but not at the expense of letting him cry. That is to say, to assume that when a baby cries he is trying to say something and that is why we have to take care of him. Once he has calmed down we leave him in his crib again because his needs are already covered (and he shows it by not crying).
At this point I disagree a bit because babies usually ask for contact (or food) and stop crying when they get it. Returning to be quiet and in the arms of dad or mom fall asleep again knowing that they are with them (their need is covered) and, leaving them back in the cradle, we stop giving them what they were asking, ergo we are leaving cover really their needs (but as they sleep, they do not find out). Even so, it is always better to do this than to let him cry for a certain time or until the child decides that it is not necessary to continue doing so because his need is not going to be covered.
To sleep the children tells us that babies should not depend on support, which defines as those objects or acts to which they can get used and whose absence makes them feel nervous. According to the babies, they will never learn to sleep alone if we create a condition such as dad's shoulder, a pacifier, a half-hour walk, mom's breast, etc.
Again I disagree, basically because of the subject of mom's breast and breastfeeding. If a baby is hungry and breast at night the most logical thing is to fall asleep with the breast. It is not that breastfeeding is a support, it is a necessity and since they breastfeed almost asleep, it is almost impossible to separate a baby that eats so that it stays awake.
If instead of talking about food is referring to the chest as an excuse to suck (the so-called non-nutritious suction), as it might be sucking a pacifier, the thing changes (if only a little). In my view children have the suction reflex because it helps them to calm down and calm down in the absence of other less physical and more psychic tools . If you are not allowed to take your breast to suck or a pacifier, you will most likely cry and ask for something to put in your mouth (who knows if you will end up sticking your hand or a finger). So, if she cries because she wants to suck something, we are the ones who do not allow her to use a "support" she needs and not the other way around, as she says, that by sucking on her breast or a pacifier we are accustoming her to something that she will not be able to leave of using.
To give an example, it is as if someone says that adults who sleep on their side can not sleep with a pillow because it is a support. It is true that I do not need it to sleep, but if I do not have it I will sleep worse and I will need to put an arm or something to be more comfortable. If someone suddenly gave me one, I would sleep better and, to take it off again, I would complain, but not because I had become used to it, but because I really need it so as not to wake up with a contracted neck.
Following what Tracy Hogg tells us, according to her we must bear in mind that a support is not an object of transition, like a stuffed animal or a blanket, since the object of transition remains with the baby while the support disappears and the there the problem. In any case, she says that she prefers that babies do not have objects to sleep, as they will develop their own means to calm down.
With this I do agree, because I am not very fond of the transition between human warmth and loneliness through an inanimate object, now, the strategies to calm oneself come when maturely a child is prepared to calm down alone (through tools that they appear as the rational brain develops). Until that moment everything that is calm oneself will be done erratically causing probably a very high stress in the child (cry to exhaustion, for example, or learn that nobody is going to give you what you really need, despite living a situation as a potential threat).
To be continue...
Tomorrow, to finish, we will explain the technique that we must follow according to the author both to get them to sleep, and to get them to do so throughout the night.
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