Sharing It is better not to get up immediately when the child cries at night, suggests a researcher
A few days ago I told you about the nights with the babies and explained that it is normal to wake up several times at night, daring to advise parents to come as soon as possible if the child cries.
Well, a researcher who has participated in a recent study suggests that the ideal is to do the opposite, not get up immediately so that the child learns to calm down for himself . The problem is that more than a conclusion for the data that was found in the investigation seems a solution of the researchers, who when seeing that many children do not sleep all night, suggest to let them cry as a solution.
The study was carried out at Temple University (USA) and aimed to know sleep patterns of babies from 6 to 36 months of age.
To carry it out, they counted on the help of 1, 200 children of those ages and their parents, who recorded the data. In light of the results, the researchers decided to classify the babies into two large groups: the sleeping babies and the transient sleeping babies .
Sleeping babies would be those that every hour and a half or two hours, which would become a cycle of sleep, wake up, going back to sleep alone. Transient sleepers would be those who also wake up every hour and a half or two hours, but who do so crying or screaming, considering then that they do not sleep all night.
To have all the data, the parents of the children were asked to note the number of awakenings of their children at 6, 15, 24 and 36 months. They concluded that at six months of age 66% of babies did not wake up or wake up once a week, changing little as they grew up. The other 34% woke up seven nights a week at six months, two nights at 15 months and one night a week at 24 months.
When looking for the characteristics of transient sleeping babies, that is, those who woke up crying and screaming, they observed that most were children, that they had a more difficult temperament, that they took breast milk from six to fifteen months and that they had mothers with more symptoms of depression at six months.
According to Marsha Weinraub, author of the study:The results suggest a couple of things. One is that genetic factors such as difficult temperament are involved in early sleep problems [...
] If the mothers wake up with these nocturnal awakenings and / or if the baby has the habit of falling asleep while breastfeeding, the child does not learn how to calm down, which is fundamental to regulate sleep.
And the same author then decided to give recommendations for the parents of transient sleeping babies:Parents should look for routines to help babies calm down. The best advice is to put the babies to bed at the same time every night, let them fall asleep on their own and resist the temptation to respond to the crying immediately.
And now my conclusions
Surely you will have reached the same conclusions as me when reading this data, but just in case it is not like that, or if you have gone further than me, I leave mine.
The first thing to keep in mind is that when babies wake up but do not complain they do not tell it, that is, as they do not cry or scream, they are considered to sleep through the night. Evidently, this is not real . We can have on the one hand a baby who cries and screams every time he wakes up but falls asleep immediately if his parents attend him and on the other side a baby who does not say even when he wakes up that he spends several times looking at the ceiling and the first one will sleep more night than the second one, but they consider that the second one sleeps better.
We must also bear in mind that those who wake up the most took the breast. I have already said it more than once and today I take this opportunity to repeat it: what most breastfed babies do is normal, what is rare is what the rest do . If the human species has arrived until these days it is thanks to, among other things, breast milk and evolution. If the breastfed babies, who are the ones who take a food that takes millennia of perfection, wake up often every night of the week, it is because the normal and logical thing is for the babies to do that.
When a baby takes something that his body does not expect (artificial formula) and this makes his rhythms of life and sleep patterns vary, even if it is to sleep more hours in a row, it is that they are not doing what they have to do by age . Consequences of this? No idea, but I think it is logical to explain that it is not a problem to be solved when a breastfed child wakes up at night more than the others, because that is what most babies of that age have done throughout the history.
And as a last point to keep in mind, we talk about transient sleeping babies as babies with a more difficult temperament, or what is the same, babies who are clear about what they want, who know how to get it and who do not give in to them. attempts of their parents to accustom them to being alone. If we think about the things we extol an adult person, these are the ideal characteristics: "You already know it, it is the envy of everyone, you know what you want, you know how to achieve it, you do not give up easily when you try to do something that It does not make sense and he loves being with the people he loves. "
In other words, sleeping babies have less temperament and end up yielding if parents "pass" them. That's why they wake up at night and do not complain.
Then, in the end, the researcher says that as they fall asleep at the breast and as parents attend to them right away they can not learn to regulate sleep, something that contradicts the data they obtained, since transient sleeping babies ended up sleeping more or less all the night at two years .
He also adds in his recommendations that "parents should look for routines to help babies calm down, " adding that they should "put babies to bed at the same time every night, let them fall asleep on their own and resist the temptation to respond to crying. immediately . "
With the first sentence I agree, but with the second one, not because it contradicts the first. If the ideal is that we help children with a difficult temperament to calm down, I do not see how it can help them to leave them alone to fall asleep, if they want to be with us, and I do not see how well they can respond to their tears immediately, if his temper will go from crying to screaming and screaming to despair in a few minutes .
What's more, if they are breastfed babies, they will tell me how to breastfeed a baby if you have to wait a while before you go back to sleep...
Do you put the nipple in your mouth once you have gone back to sleep? How many minutes do we have to wait? And will not we wake him up if, once he's asleep, we try to put a tit in his mouth? Because of course, we are talking about children from six months onwards, children who still have to breastfeed at night (to continue receiving milk, because during the day they nurse less because they eat more, and to help their mothers do not do a mastitis fruit of breast engorgement that can occur if a child does not breast all night).
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