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Armando @armando_bastida

A few days ago our peers from Peques and more showed us a very curious video about reverse psychology . It is being one of the most watched on the internet and, although yesterday Miriam showed it to you in the Weekly Summary of Peques and more, I want to talk a little about him.

Reverse psychology is something like asking someone to do something to do exactly the opposite. That is, offer the message that you would never give because you know that the other person will want to do the opposite of what you say.

It is a technique that usually works quite well with children (and many adults, make no mistake), closely related to "the more difficult it is to get it, the more I want it" or "it is enough for me to be forbidden to do so". I want to do it. "

In the commented video you can see a father and his son who leave home. The boy says he wants to go by car and the father says no, he's walking. They start with a "no" the father and a "yes" the son and continue with the no-yes-no-yes until the father says "yes", when the child ends up saying "no". Then the father takes advantage and says something like: "Well, no, well, let's go".

It really is an example of very simple reverse psychology, so much that it works only when they are very tiny and I really believe that not even that (I have tried this myself with my children and it has never worked). It seems more like a trick typical of cartoons, of those that you say "would never work" and in my opinion the boy ends up saying not following the joke, with a half smile, knowing that he says no when he would prefer to say yes. I do not think that the father has convinced him, nor that the result really is due to the child's desire to do the opposite of what they ask, but rather that the child really did not care so much to walk (he starts doing it when the father says "We leave" and the march starts, which suggests that even if the father had not said "yes", he would have walked anyway).

In any case, whatever happened, and having noted that the example of the video does not seem too revealing in terms of reverse psychology, the subject seems interesting, because there are much more subtle reverse psychology techniques that can be used with children and with adults who, in fact, are often being used to convince children of something, adults to buy certain items, in love and even on a day-to-day basis.

As I think a topic that gives quite a game tomorrow we talk about it again in a much more extensive entry, with several examples for you to see how reverse psychology works.

I leave you again with the video, in case you have not seen it:

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