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Eva Paris @paris_eva

A few days ago we saw that more than half of the grandparents take care of their grandchildren practically every day, which in many of them caused feelings of anguish and overwhelm. Grandparents also feel used to consider that their children delegate excessively the education and care of their children.

That is to say, what would have to be an "aid" becomes a total responsibility. What most struck me about the report that offers these data (prepared by the Foundation for Help against Drug Addiction and Obra Social Caja Madrid) is that in many cases that perception of anguish is related to social class: less economic resources, less possibility of external help (hire kangaroos, nurseries ...) and, therefore, greater dependence on grandparents.

Spanish grandparents have become the "substitutes" for many social deficiencies, especially for families of lower middle class who do not have access to support resources for the care of the youngest and in which both parents They need to work.

This means that, given the circumstances of the family, the salaries of father and mother are needed to subsist (even, I imagine, in many cases to help the grandparents financially precisely), with which the option of requesting a leave or leave of working to take care of children personally can not be contemplated.

In the case of one of the two parents without work, it is assumed that this will be the one who takes care of the children. But if both work, the grandparents become responsible for the children.

The most extreme situation is found in families who are forced to leave their homes and return to their grandparents' homes, on their way back after some situations of prolonged unemployment and / or divorce or separation. Given these complicated situations, which grandfather or grandmother would not offer their help to the children, taking care of their grandchildren what is needed and even helping the children financially if they need it and is within their means.

What other option do families without resources have?

Let's put ourselves in the situation of families with few resources that need to work . Entering a public daycare is not always easy, or free. Should not it be possible for these families to access the places of Early Childhood Education for their children, to have financial help so that they do not have to leave their jobs or burden their grandparents with such responsibility?

Would longer maternal deaths eliminate this problem altogether? Who would benefit most from creating more childcare places? Or would it be better if the children are with the grandparents, feel how they feel these, whether or not there are childcare places available?

It is clear that creating more public places in Early Childhood Education is not the panacea that solves all the ills and deficiencies in our society with regard to the care of children and work and family reconciliation. But if in any situation I think the possibility should be seriously considered, it is in the case of these families without resources.

The risks and benefits of going to the nursery are not the same for all children, and we already saw that for the children of certain families in a disadvantaged situation it is the best. The AEP notes that day care may be the best option for many families (because there are no alternative care systems). Are grandparents an acceptable "alternative care system"? It seems, not always, either for the sake of the children, or for the good of the grandparents. We will come back to this topic.

In short, the report " Grandparents and grandmothers ... for everything . Perceptions about education and care of the grandchildren "offers us many interesting topics to reflect on, to see other realities that are not idyllic from many points of view.

Via | The Country Photo | surlygirl on FlickrIn Babies and more | Should grandparents take care of our children ?, Babysitting grandparents, Risks and benefits of going to daycare (I) and (II)