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Lola Rovati @Lolarovati

One of the issues that concern the couple with the arrival of the baby is what will be the intimacy between them from now on. The truth is that after childbirth changes occur in women at all levels, and of course, also in their sexuality.

If in addition the mother chooses to breastfeed, in the postpartum a hormonal revolution takes place that, as it is logical, influences in its sexual life. To better understand these changes we will talk about sexual relations during breastfeeding .

The action of hormones

To understand what happens in postpartum women, we have to talk about the action of hormones, since the changes are determined by hormonal causes .

During pregnancy, high levels of progesterone and estrogen added to the erogenous zones such as breasts and external genitalia are more irrigated, the woman can get to experience fuller sexual intercourse and more intense orgasms.

But after delivery, the hormonal map changes radically. These changes have a biological foundation. The suction of the baby stimulates the production of prolactin, a hormone that intervenes in the production of milk, a mechanism that slows down the secretion of estrogens, causing, in most cases, a decrease in libido .

It is natural that during the postpartum both the body and the mind of the mother are focused on the care of the newborn . The mother nourishes the baby with her milk, so she has to be available to him at all hours, both day and night.

In the mother who does not breastfeed, the biological mechanisms are different, but the emotional situation is the same . In both cases all the attention is placed on the baby, so it is normal that there is a decrease in sexual appetite .

You do not have to feel guilty about it at all, but be aware of the process and talk to your partner . It is no coincidence that no mammalian female has the heat during breastfeeding. The psychologist Monica Serrano told us in an interview that we have done in the blog that Only humans and kangaroos have sex during breastfeeding.

It's not all about hormones

In addition to the decrease in sexual appetite in women caused by physical, hormonal and psychological changes, there are other symptoms that hinder sexual intercourse in the postpartum period .

Postpartum lochia, as well as the lack of vaginal lubrication that the woman experiences in the first weeks 6-8 weeks after delivery, makes sexual intercourse difficult.

If we add to this the points of episiotomy or cesarean section if there are any, in some cases pain in intercourse, and the fatigue involved in caring for a newborn baby (not to mention if there are more children), it is completely understandable Do not feel like having sex at this stage.

The man must understand the changes that occur in women during the puerperium and accompany their partner in this new phase of their sexuality . In him also changes take place after the childbirth, therefore it is a new opportunity to experience a different sexuality, to go looking for moments of intimacy that contribute little by little to recover the desire and to find new spaces of communication.

Photo | Mitya Ku on Flickr CC in Babies and more | Postpartum sexuality