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Silvia Díaz @madreaventura

The summer has just begun, but according to a survey conducted by the Groupon company to 1, 500 Spanish mothers and fathers, 75 percent of them feel guilty about the holidays they plan to give their children, as they consider that they are not up to par of the expectations they have.

This feeling of guilt, which increases when witnessing the holiday plans that friends and acquaintances share on social networks, leads parents to spend an average of 150 euros per week more on treats, activities and gifts to compensate their children.

In search of the perfect holidays

The school is over and the children are looking forward to enjoying the two months of vacations that lie ahead. Surely if we asked them what their "perfect holidays" would be like, most would tell us that by making sandcastles on the shore of the beach, playing in the park until sunset and enjoying the days without a clock.

However, for Spanish parents this does not seem to be enough . So at least it throws a survey by Groupon to 1, 500 parents and mothers with children between five and 16 years.

Of these, 34 percent have been planning summer vacations for three months, and 75 percent feel bad because they believe that what they plan to do is not up to the expectations of their children.

But in addition to this unrest, the survey has revealed that parents experience a great feeling of guilt during the summer because of the little time they spend with their children, as well as because of the activities they do in their absence, or on the contrary They can do it by not spending time together.

The guilt of the parents

The "time" is a fundamental factor and is able to generate a wave of negative feelings in the parents when the summer holidays arrive. The fact that the children have said goodbye to the school puts the parents in the position of deciding what to do with them, especially when they must continue working.

This decision is not always easy to make, and in many cases it causes great headaches that increase the feeling of guilt in the parents:

  • 48 percent feel guilty about spending little quality time with their children.

  • 21 percent feel guilty about the amount of time their children spend at home .

  • 29 percent feel guilty because their children do not spend enough time doing activities.

  • 28 percent have pretended to be sick so they would not go to work and spend a day with their children.

But in addition to the time factor, there are other situations that occur especially at this time of year, which overwhelm and frustrate parents, and which are in decreasing order:

  • The fact that children spend many hours in front of the television, computer, or iPad

  • Not being able to afford to go on many trips or perform one day activities

  • Running out of ideas to keep kids entertained

  • Stay at home instead of going out and enjoying different leisure experiences

  • Feeling that the children of others are enjoying summer more than yours

  • Not being able to afford to go on vacation

  • Say no to requests for treats, new toys and children's trips

  • Do not organize more educational and cultural events

  • The bad behavior of their children in public places

  • Laying the children late

The pressure of social networks

These feelings of guilt are increased in 26 percent of cases, when parents look at the pictures of vacations that other families publish on their social networks.

In addition, in 27 percent of the occasions parents say they feel especially bad when their children tell them about the activities or trips that their friends are going to do.

And it is that sometimes, the idyllic landscapes and bucolic scenes that some parents publish on the Internet, make others feel pressured by not being able to offer their children the same, believing that those are the perfect vacations that the children would like to have .

However, 27 percent of parents admit that the photographs they post on the Internet do not reflect their daily reality, and that they only echo the best images of their summer.

Still, a fifth of respondents admit feeling a great pressure when posting photos of their vacations on Instagram or Facebook, because they want to look perfect.

The cost of guilt

Guilt leads 72 percent of parents and 67 percent of mothers to spend more money than usual on activities and gifts to compensate their children .

Specifically, fathers and mothers spend an average of 150 euros more per week and per child, than they would spend in another period of the year.

The money that the parents spend on the children during the summer is distributed, according to the survey, in the following way:

  • 29 percent spend more money than usual on sweets, candy and ice cream .

  • 48 percent spend money on going out to dinner at fast food establishments .

  • 39 percent opt ​​for amusement parks and film sessions.

  • Some 20 percent of respondents even claim to have bought their child electronic devices, including iPads and video games .

Be parents for your child, not for social networks

According to those responsible for the survey, the data show that social networks cause a lot of tension among families, wishing to have a perfect summer vacation and up to what others publish.

But when they are unable to do so, parents experience great guilt, feeling that what they can offer their children is not up to what they expect .

However, what is really important in summer is not that it looks perfect on our social networks, nor does it fill our children with material goods thinking that is what they want.

And it is not necessary to have a high budget to spend an unforgettable summer with your family. The important thing is those moments that we treasure day after day, those spontaneous and fun moments that will remain forever engraved in our memory and that of our children.

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