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Lucy Ortega @LucyUMM

As parents, we will always look for our children to be well protected and not miss anything. Surely most of you can agree with me that one of our concerns is that nothing ever happens to them and avoid situations that could put their safety at risk.

But we must also remember that we should only accompany and guide our children, as well as give them space to grow and develop, without taking total control of every aspect of their lives, because it could even affect them. This is what we can read in a recent study, which found that "helicopter parents" could affect the ability of their children to control their emotions .

How are the "helicopter parents"?

Within parenting there are different styles of fatherhood: tiger parents, snow plow parents, corral parents, gentle parents and helicopter parents, who is the one who treats the study that we will share with them.

Helicopter parents are those who take charge of all aspects of the child's life : they intervene whenever they have a problem and become too involved in their education, calling their teachers a lot. In general, it is those parents who fall into the overprotection of children, which while preventing or saving their children from certain unforeseen events, prevents them from learning to control their behavior, promote their independence and have the ability to make decisions on their own .

The study

Published in the journal Developmental Psychology, these results were part of a study that lasted eight years and analyzed the social and emotional development at 2, 5 and 10 years of age of the 422 children who participated in it. . The data collection was done observing the interactions between parents and children, receiving reports from their teachers, as well as reports prepared by the children themselves at the age of 10.

It was found that those children with very controlling or overprotective parents were less able to cope with the demands of their growth, especially when they were in the school environment.

Doctor in Philosophy Nicole B. Perry, who was one of the authors of the study, says that those children who can not regulate their emotions and behavior effectively, are more likely to manifest it in the classroom, struggle to make friends and in general, difficulties in school.

Of course, no one does things with the intention of harming their children and although helicopter parents have good intentions, in doing so they prevent children from developing emotional and behavioral skills.

Yes, we as parents must guide our children to learn to control their emotions, but we must also give them space to practice and learn to handle them independently.

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